I am so ashamed of myself! And I’m ashamed of most of the people I know! At any age, but Especially at my age, I/we need to stop giving “lip service” to the very strong feelings that we share as human beings. It’s all well and good to have people wish you well, or tell you to have a nice day or say they are praying for you. My favorite is when someone tells me they love me. Really? Really. When was the last time you called me? When was the last time you came over to my house to visit? Invited me to lunch? Invited me to the movies or to go shopping? And I am as guilty as any one! We are all so damn Busy! I know. I know we have family, church, other friends, work. Of the people my age, I’m one of the few who still has a 40 hours a week job. Still. Humans need other humans. We need the “good thoughts” from our friends, we need the prayers, we need the well wishes. Hell, we need Friends! But what we most want and Need and Crave is physical presence! We need to See our friends.
I have been trying to be better at this. You really have to make a conscious decision to put a plan together. Will you get to see Everyone that you need to see? Probably not. Like I said, we are Busy. But I am making a list, in order of importance, of people that I Need to see. As I make my rounds, I can only hope that people will follow my lead. Your family and especially your friends, need to see your face. Hold your hand. Receive your hug.
Please don’t tell them that you love them. If there is any physical way for you to do it, go to them. Go SHOW them that you love them, care for them, care About them. There is an old saying, “Don’t come to my funeral and cry and tell me how much you love me. Come to my house and tell me now, while I am still here”.
At my age, life goes by so very fast. I plan to use each day, for as long as I have, to SHOW my family and friends how much I love them. No sense in letting them assume. I want them to absolutely know for a fact!